A real Man Never Hurts A Woman 4-19-19

This is so true. I’ll never forget when I was in San Francisco. My ex had been so awful. To the point I cried profusely. I left the house and went to my church and prayed at the altar. On the way home I was angry at God. Even yelling at him. I stopped at a convenience store before going back home. As I walked in, an older man walked in behind me. As we walked towards the back he suddenly said “I want you to know God heard you tonight”. I looked at him and said “excuse me”. He said “God saw who hurt you tonight and made you cry. He wants you to know he will deal with him but he also wants you to know he has a plan for you. Everything is going to be alright”. I was so taken aback. He told me God had a plan for me. He said don’t worry about the person who hurt you. God will deal with him but as for you he has a plan and everything is going to be ok. I began to cry. This stranger put one arm around me and raised his other arm in the air and said “St Catherine of Sienna I ask you to intercede for this woman tonight. May you offer her the same gift you offered me years ago!” I looked at him and asked “Are you Catholic?” He answered “we are all Catholic”. He went on to share a story when he was in Europe and was down and out. He prayed even praying to St. Catherine of Sienna asking her to pray for him. A miracle happened. He prayed that I too would receive the same gift of a miracle he received that time.

Now you might wonder who this man was. I have no idea. He was just a business man who was lost in the city. He had google map on his iPad and wanted to ask the store clerk questions. Before he left he said “I’m so glad I walked in here tonight. God bless you.” He walked out and got in to his Mercedes and drove away.

I probably will never forget this night. They say God speaks to you through people. I have always been grateful he spoke to me through a stranger that night.

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You are alive to face another day – woohoo!

I’m alive and living another day!! Woohoo

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Wake up this morning and every morning and say
 
“I am alive, what a fantastic day to be alive. I am going to make it a blissfull day”
 
You are alive to face another day – woohoo! 
That alone is a celebration! So let’s act like this each and every day.
 
Who can put their hand up to wanting to hit snooze several times, to moaning and groaning in your pillow that getting up sucks and grumbly you have to do this and that today?
 
And remember a time when you leapt out of bed even before the alarm got to ring, all excited for what was coming?
 
Which one made you feel better?
 
Wherever we put our energy, grows, so why not make it a great start to the day and affirm before you are even out of bed what a mighty…

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The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Suffering In Silence — The Good Vibes Only Roadshow

We’ve all been hurt one time or another

Reiki Master Jacqueline Burke

We have all been there; when we are hurt so bad and can’t say anything. We Suffer In Silence! Our feelings have been ripped apart, by the one’s we love the most. The question of “why did they do this to us” never gets answered. We Suffer In Silence! When we finally get the nerve […]

via The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Suffering In Silence — The Good Vibes Only Roadshow

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Dating Sites What Are They Good For #2 – 4-17-19

I stopped to visit a friend tonight. We were chuckling about dating sites. She has a friend who hasn’t had good luck with dating sites. Go Figure. I remembered my own experience a few years ago and couldn’t help but find myself laughing. I went back to read the blog I wrote about my own experience about three years ago. My story still cracks me up so I thought I’d share the link again for those of you who haven’t had the opportunity to read it. I hope you get a good chuckle at my expense tonight. What can I say….when it comes to anything in my life You can rest assured that you can’t make this shit up even if you try. Enjoy!

https://fiercefabulousfunny.com/2016/06/03/dating-sites-what-are-they-good-for/

You Love A Guy Who….4-17-19

How many of you women have found yourself in toxic relationships with a man who continuously treats you like garbage. He causes so much havoc in your life that you think you’re going insane?

I’ve found myself in these types of relationships a time or two. My guy was guilty of gaslighting me to the point I lost my sense of self respect as well as integrity. I could no longer make decisions. My head was always racing with crazy thoughts. Even thoughts of suicide.

A dear friend once sent this to me and as I read the message I found myself embarrassed. Even though the words were hurtful, especially coming from my best friend who is a male. Sadly I knew everything he said was true. I found myself reading the message this morning. I wanted to remind myself that I had to always value myself more than I value a relationship with any toxic person.

I’m sharing these questions my friend asked me to ponder while going through my own drama because I know there are many women out there who are in abusive, toxic relationships with a narcissist person whose only value is in gaslighting you and making you crazy. You’re not crazy. As you read this maybe you will relate to some but not all of the questions. If you do, I pray you find the strength to get out before it’s too late. Take pride in the woman you are. I need to always do the same. I often remember the words my dad used to say to me “Velma….men are like greyhound busses. There’s always another one at the next stop going to the same place for the same fare”. In other words, there is always someone better out there. Don’t waste your time with anyone who disrespects you, cheats on you, calls you names or makes you feel crazy when he lies to you claiming he’s simply telling a white lie or blames you for his indiscretions and saying you’re crazy. You’re not crazy!! It’s not your fault!! They are the problem. Not you. Instead walk away and pray for the next victim that comes in contact with that person. Their story will be your story in no time flat. I don’t wish my story, my experience with anyone.

This is what my friend wrote:

You LOVE a guy who….

1. Cheats on you (in my case hours before my flight landed to go see him)

2 A guy who likes dildos in his ass. (Humiliating in itself)

3 A guy who is broke ass poor.

4. A guy who cheats on you with women who are basically whores (I’m not sure they were whores rather victims like me)

5. You find all this out when you find his tablet (yup. That’s how I found out. I knew something was amiss so I snooped)

6. He nickels and dimes you

7 He calls you names ALL the time (bitch, _unt, you’re crazy, possessed just to name a few)

8. He lives 5 states over (we lived in different states)

9. You don’t see him on a regular basis (always fighting. One minute he wanted me and the next he ignored me and wouldn’t take my calls. He needed to meditate and drift)

10. He Gaslights you. (Example he called me a freak. When I confronted him saying not to call me that ever again he accused me of hearing things. Omg. He made me crazy!)

11. Lies about everything. His excuse is he’s not lying. He just tells a bunch of “white lies to protect our relationship! Bullshit! He is a liar!

12. Doesn’t value you nor does he respect you.

13 If he really wanted you he would fly to you for a day or two (I had to fly to see him and pay not only to get there but everything while being there)

14 He laughs at you behind your back. You’re crazy and obsessed! Remember?!!

15 No game plan or commitment. The only commitment is the one he wants from you.

Why do you want to be with such a total loser?!!

You decide! Read this again until you understand what he is! A loser! Your a loser as much as he is if you continue to stay with him.

I still find myself mortified when I read this. What on gods green earth was I thinking?! The truth is, I wasn’t. My life had become insane.

It’s hard to take that first step and walk away. Harder to heal from the craziness. However, time heals everything and before you know it you will head to the “bus stop” and find a better guy going your way.

If you need someone to talk to please email or call me. I’ve been there. I get it. I will listen and be your support as you make the decision to take your power back and dump that loser who has overtaken your life.

Velmadunkin@gmail.com

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Look into your heart whenever you need to make a decision

Look in to your heart

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Look into your heart whenever you need to make a decision.
 
Your heart will never lead you wrong.
 
While all of us wants the best for us. Sometimes our brain can let ego get in the way of making decisions for us – because it wants to keep us super safe and has to question whether anything is good for us or not.
 
Our heart doesn’t have that problem. It comes from a space of pure love and acceptance so it can make loving decisions that it knows is right for us regardless if they seem a little scary or outside our comfort zone.
 
Leading from the heart will never lead you astray. Instead it will happily show you the way with a warm hand and a gentle guiding light.
 
Affirm with the Angels today ” I lead with my heart into joyous moments”
 

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Betrayal 4-16-19

Most of us aren’t likely to betray anyone to a death squad. But as we meditate on the events of the Passion, we might reflect on the times we’ve betrayed a trust, the times we’ve talked about someone behind their back, the times we’ve stayed silent when a friend has been ridiculed. Resolve to keep silent when tempted to gossip and to speak out when others are gossiping. That sounds like a challenge, doesn’t it? It is. Pray for the grace to meet it.

—from the book The Hope of Lent: Daily Reflections from Pope Francis by Diane M. Houdek