Dating God does not require a hermitage any more than taking a spouse on a date requires a special destination. Solitude comes when we create the space and set aside the time to enter more deeply into the mystery that is the very Love that gives us life and meaning. It can be found in the quiet of the morning before the busy day, in the ten minute walk at lunch, or in the restful moments before bed. Just as with creating time and space to be alone with another person, creating time and space for solitude is more about intentionality and the desire to be fully present in the moment than it is about being in this or that location. While solitude may appear scary at first, confronting that fear is perhaps the first step to deepening one’s relationship with God. Just as the prospect of learning more about another person or ourselves can be daunting, the reward comes in the connection that is formed when two know each other in the openness of an intimate friendship. Going into the created space and time set aside for solitude is going on a date with God.
—from Dating God: Live and Love in the Way of St. Francis
“A quiet mind married to integrity of heart is the birth of wisdom.” – ADYASHANTI
I read this quote this morning and I found myself pondering on my own integrity. It reminded me of the time I quit a lucrative and very prosperous position based on my personal integrity. At the time my boss was asking me to compromise my integrity for the good of the business. In other words for money. I refused, so I quit on the spot. I still remember the words he said to me. “You will never make the money you make here”. My reply was “I’d rather take that chance than compromise my integrity for a buck!”
I walked away that day with my head held high and have never looked back. In the end, he was right. I’ve never made the money I was earning at my position while working there, however I have never regretted my decision. I knew then like I know now. I made the right decision. I haven’t always made great decisions in my life but any decision I’ve made based on integrity has always been one with no regrets. I’ve found it easy to never look back.