I was on Facebook today and a friend posted “my day was ok. I get lonely a lot”. My heart went out to her. I knew exactly how she felt. On May 16th of 2015, I packed up my things and left San Francisco. I left behind the city I love so much. I miss the city and I miss my church. However, I also left behind an abusive ex-boyfriend who brought so much pain and suffering in to my life at a time when I needed support the most. I was fighting cancer. Since then, I have spent many lonely days alone. I’ve gone to dinner alone, movies alone, vacations alone and I haven’t even dated. The good news is, I’ve gotten to know myself and become comfortable with the person I am. I’ve realized I don’t need an entourage of people or even a boyfriend to enjoy the life God has blessed me with. I don’t always have someone to talk to, cry with or even yell at but its been on those days I’ve drawn closer to my faith. I pray a lot, I talk to God a lot I even yell at him but no matter the circumstances I wake up every morning. Life is good. No one ever said life was going to be perfect. But If you take the time to enjoy the blessings you do have and less on what you don’t, you may discover that not only is living life and the beauty that surrounds us, (such as a sunrise or a beautiful sunset) a blessing…..but you are too. 

I responded with the following post to my friend. I’m not sure if it was the right thing to say but My hope is it was the best thing to say. Being lonely sucks. The good news is we are not alone. We have a God who loves us and thinks we are “all that”. If he can love us, then why shouldn’t we love ourselves too. Enjoy life. There are no promises for today. Live life to the fullest and when your only friend is “me, myself and I”, enjoy it!  Me, myself and I will always be the best friend you’ll ever have!!

“I get that! I too am lonely a lot but sometimes being lonely is a positive thing. It helps us to get to know who we really are and truly become to understand that we are awesome. I’ve spent the past year doing things alone. What I’ve discovered is the best traveling companion, besides my cousin who I love so much, is “me, myself & I”. Embrace the loneliness, hard as it may be and remember, you will never be alone. You are a child of the most high God. He’s always with you and he loves you so much. Have a better day today my dear friend. The sun is shining, the birds are chirping and if you’re reading this, you’re above ground. I met a guy last year while going thru treatment. He was fighting cancer for the second time. He said “everyday above ground is a great day!” He was right! Go out and make today the best day ever and when you’re only friend is “me, myself & I”, you can do whatever you want. Love your friend……Velma D”